After my fifth standard I was forced to study high school at my mom's parents place. I still remember how much I cried for being away from parents.I used to go to lonely place, cry for an hour and come back to hell.It was mentally intoxicating to stay away from parents and village with the limited attachment I had with them.Today when I look back those memories are very funny.
Parents in-laws are here in Singapore from the last one month, wife had the best time with them. Starting from how to cross signal in foreign land till she gives sendoff at airport she took care of them like her children, wife's parents scolding her with pride for teaching even small things of life just like they did in her childhood. Long hours of discussion, late night sleeps, roaming around the city, movies , small fights in between ,theme parks anything and everything in Singapore most of the times three of them enjoyed, I was just providing my support to them and playing the role of audience. Today they just left to India, when I was observing wife's feelings at departure gate she was missing them just like me in my childhood but with more intensity.
Came back to home, home is full of silence,wife is hardly replying to me, she went to the room where they spent most of the time, crying alone, its reflecting my childhood days, all I am doing is letting her to drop down all the tears as she will treasure them forever, when she is still not stopping I entered into altercation for a small thing to divert her attention but thats not giving any result,now just sitting and talking to her some nonsense.
Being a husband I don't think I can ever replace parents love and affection, parents love is unconditional , where as husband's love start with need and grows with time depending on thinking of the person, it will take a life time to match with parents, will continue to understand and improve on this.
Wife's parents will be reaching India midnight Singapore time and she is not going to sleep until she hear their voice from India. The least I am doing is be with her, talk some nonsense and write this blog while she is watching the tv. I am off to India day after on business trip, has to do something tomorrow to bring back wife to mechanical life we have chosen profoundly.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Sunday, August 1, 2010
India visit
One week visit to Bombay as part of work, excited about the trip as it was first time for me in business class travel and the best hotel facilities there. Requested wife to join me but she didn't accept.
Reached Bombay on Sunday morning, Me with three other colleagues went for a city trip in taxi, at most of the places there is huge difference in entry price for foreigners so colleagues didn't show much interest not that they can't afford, I didn't understand the logic behind this high price, when I asked the same to the people at the counter they also don't have any clue :-) With my memory I didn't remember any such price difference in any foreign land I have visited.Gandhi's museum, a good place to revisit my history knowledge and to take something back with me while leaving the place.
My father in law came to Mumbai all the way from Andhra for a day to see me, travel time to Bombay was 20 hours one way to him where it was 4 hours for me from Singapore, it was so touching, these are the precious moments one get through out the life if you don't take dowry,had good time with him.I can feel that he is missing his daughter too much more than me. Requested him to come to Singapore soon, he accepted.
At work, made so many good friends and met senior people of the country. Get opportunity to meet very talented people and the market makers.Not speaking much about the work as I am not supped to do so.While interacting with them came to know that all of them made entry to that place after clearing toughest exams and interviews of India. One woman who made impact one me was Sucharita mam, being a woman managing so many things and people effectively with passion. When I told the same to her, she just smiled.Mam I learned many things from you in this week. One week just passed like that, while leaving the place it was a bit painful to leave all the wonderful people, I do miss them.
Farewell to Uday yesterday who is leaving to UK for work. Uday, nice and intelligent guy, around three years back when he came to me for a suggestion about his work and career , I became the reason for him to enter into Murex consulting area ,at that time he took the bold decision of quitting high paid job and joined this for a lesser salary, he is going to enjoy the fruits of his risky decision now.
Wife booked badminton court for me and my friends by the time when I am back, had tiring badminton,now going for a telugu movie "maryada ramanna" as she decides and I follow:-), already started scolding for not getting ready.
Reached Bombay on Sunday morning, Me with three other colleagues went for a city trip in taxi, at most of the places there is huge difference in entry price for foreigners so colleagues didn't show much interest not that they can't afford, I didn't understand the logic behind this high price, when I asked the same to the people at the counter they also don't have any clue :-) With my memory I didn't remember any such price difference in any foreign land I have visited.Gandhi's museum, a good place to revisit my history knowledge and to take something back with me while leaving the place.
My father in law came to Mumbai all the way from Andhra for a day to see me, travel time to Bombay was 20 hours one way to him where it was 4 hours for me from Singapore, it was so touching, these are the precious moments one get through out the life if you don't take dowry,had good time with him.I can feel that he is missing his daughter too much more than me. Requested him to come to Singapore soon, he accepted.
At work, made so many good friends and met senior people of the country. Get opportunity to meet very talented people and the market makers.Not speaking much about the work as I am not supped to do so.While interacting with them came to know that all of them made entry to that place after clearing toughest exams and interviews of India. One woman who made impact one me was Sucharita mam, being a woman managing so many things and people effectively with passion. When I told the same to her, she just smiled.Mam I learned many things from you in this week. One week just passed like that, while leaving the place it was a bit painful to leave all the wonderful people, I do miss them.
Farewell to Uday yesterday who is leaving to UK for work. Uday, nice and intelligent guy, around three years back when he came to me for a suggestion about his work and career , I became the reason for him to enter into Murex consulting area ,at that time he took the bold decision of quitting high paid job and joined this for a lesser salary, he is going to enjoy the fruits of his risky decision now.
Wife booked badminton court for me and my friends by the time when I am back, had tiring badminton,now going for a telugu movie "maryada ramanna" as she decides and I follow:-), already started scolding for not getting ready.
Monday, June 28, 2010
Money-Phase2
After going through worst experiences with money, I told to myself that when I start earning, money savings should never control me-my thoughts-my actions. I wanted to enjoy every bit of life without thinking too much about so called security and with out loosing control on my responsibilities.Mine is a hyper active mind, always thinking about so many impossibilities and irregularities of life,never allow myself to think on savings. I do think abt earnings but never on savings, unfortunately most of the times pay is the parameter for judging the talent of an individual, I love to create too much wealth if possible for my capabilities with honesty but never earn just for saving. I have been working for 5 years,my wife scolding me literally for not having any savings for myself, giving everything to those who helped me or to dependents .Definitely I am not sacrificing anything here, I am spending the way I like.All that I need in life is prediction for next one month earnings and medical insurance, that itself is my savings, the moment I get monthly salary I disperse it everything on the first day itself keeping something for my next one month so that I utilize my time for better things in life.My dependents are of highest priority , today its family and known people urgent needs with out expecting returns, after sometime family and something else.
But its not easy to get acceptance for this kind of behavior from family that to after going through struggles for money, so lot of sweet arguments and suggestions from family which I pretend to follow.
After clearing all my loans, one day me and my friend was going on a bike,we stopped at a beggar in Bangalore, I gave him my ray ban glasses and around 8000 rupees, that beggar didn't understand whats happening,after few seconds he throw the glasses at us and ran away with the money. I broke those glasses recently when I fought with my wife :-), another fight going to happen after this blog if saps reads it, as I didn't tell this to her till now :-)...
Few days back when my uncle applying for my tax returns on behalf of me in India through an agent, that accountant told that "sir , I haven't seen this kind of person in my experience so far who doesn't have any savings for this pay and paying this much extra tax etc......"., another round of class from wife...
It's not that I don't care for money, I love money only till I earn but not to hide it. Create wealth not just for myself but for people who trust, may be I am going to end my life with this thought and its subsequent actions.
Now so called great friends and well wishers and their behavior after earnings and salaries .....coming soon :-)...
But its not easy to get acceptance for this kind of behavior from family that to after going through struggles for money, so lot of sweet arguments and suggestions from family which I pretend to follow.
After clearing all my loans, one day me and my friend was going on a bike,we stopped at a beggar in Bangalore, I gave him my ray ban glasses and around 8000 rupees, that beggar didn't understand whats happening,after few seconds he throw the glasses at us and ran away with the money. I broke those glasses recently when I fought with my wife :-), another fight going to happen after this blog if saps reads it, as I didn't tell this to her till now :-)...
Few days back when my uncle applying for my tax returns on behalf of me in India through an agent, that accountant told that "sir , I haven't seen this kind of person in my experience so far who doesn't have any savings for this pay and paying this much extra tax etc......"., another round of class from wife...
It's not that I don't care for money, I love money only till I earn but not to hide it. Create wealth not just for myself but for people who trust, may be I am going to end my life with this thought and its subsequent actions.
Now so called great friends and well wishers and their behavior after earnings and salaries .....coming soon :-)...
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Money, PHASE 1
Everyone might have experienced the worst and best experiences with money. Through out my life I was bitten by money in many many ways.My first experience with money was when I am 9 years old and suffering from fever , my father asked my mom for money which he has given few days back.My mom used it for household expenses, dispute there, then we went to hospital with no money to the near by village and doctor treated us after assurance to pay soon.That was the beginning for my journey to money. I was around 10, me with friends found a half rupee coin at the bottom of a big iron pipe, we 4 friends worked on it for more than 4 hours and enjoyed 10 chocolates we got with that money.My needs with money were growing with my age, but I was unable to find any source for money.Once in a while relatives comes to my home and they give some change while leaving home, that happens very rare.My frustration levels going up, then I tried my own ways of getting money like selling books which my father buy at the beginning of academic year for me,doing some construction jobs without knowing at home,writing notebooks for seniors of nearby village so that they give some money etc etc. all these was not giving enough confidence for me.... Real pain with money started when I am 15,so many of my seniors and my batch mates discontinued their education as their parents cannot afford education expenses, my younger brother also one among them later I forced him to restart his studies where he left.A genius friend in my intermediate left his studies for the same money, I have to give a miss for Anna University and Regional colleges, the best colleges in India for the same money,I gave all my first 4 years of earnings to my uncle with 45% FOURTY FICE PERCENT -- interest rate just I don't have relatively small money at the right time,me and many mates like me were never concentrated fully on studies or job as money was always biting some way or other,lost relations for money,lied hell lot of times- again for the same money, friends fought for the same money.
All the money I was talking at each instance above is probably any layman in developed countries can earn from a an hour to a month odd job. In my life I have seen so many people decided their fate at the early age itself as there is no hope or support for the so called minimum money.Where is that god who is allowing others to ruin their fate for no reasons???
Poor people lives are badly effected by very very little money, not even money,just hope for money.God, jesus-allah or what so ever,its not just giving life but show some ray of hope for everyone man.....everyone actually not living the life u have given, just passing the days with pain, I am doing my efforts to reach u god,will question him when I meet him.
one of my lecturer who was in his 60's once told that "Anil, it will take one person's life time to bring up the family living standard's ", it was a statement come from life time experience, that one person in the family needs a vision and courage. I have seen and seeing so many families in my village itself who didn't find that one person in the family, still living the poverty life with half meals and no hope.
Will write in the next blog on what money means to me now....
All the money I was talking at each instance above is probably any layman in developed countries can earn from a an hour to a month odd job. In my life I have seen so many people decided their fate at the early age itself as there is no hope or support for the so called minimum money.Where is that god who is allowing others to ruin their fate for no reasons???
Poor people lives are badly effected by very very little money, not even money,just hope for money.God, jesus-allah or what so ever,its not just giving life but show some ray of hope for everyone man.....everyone actually not living the life u have given, just passing the days with pain, I am doing my efforts to reach u god,will question him when I meet him.
one of my lecturer who was in his 60's once told that "Anil, it will take one person's life time to bring up the family living standard's ", it was a statement come from life time experience, that one person in the family needs a vision and courage. I have seen and seeing so many families in my village itself who didn't find that one person in the family, still living the poverty life with half meals and no hope.
Will write in the next blog on what money means to me now....
Monday, June 14, 2010
Jewellery vs electronics
very hectic weekend ,shirt trip to Perth for just 2 days to validate wife's pr .Good news from friends, whom I know from the last 5 years are getting married , may be the best achievement of his life ,getting acceptance from one of the finest girl very happy for them,
should try my best to attend their marriage.
on this weekend bought an iPad for myself in perth after playing lot of dramas and pretensions to convince and to see smile on wife's face even after buying . Girls are ready to buy anything in the form of jewellery but not happy to spend on electronics.She was telling that gold at any point of time will give at least 90 percent of investment but not digital things . Then I argued that if u sell any of ur jewellery n bring back that 90% then I never buy anything... but no reply from wife.
Jewellery is the worst possible investment I have ever seen, the moment u start selling jewellery means bad phase of life has began , go to the same shop where u bought the jewellery u will see the difference in treatment, if ur circle knows this news then treatment differs , your consciousness treatment ......everything changes just with selling one jewellery . Also most of the times women buy jewellery to showoff in parties which obviously creates either jealousy or hatred feeling in many ways , will try for revenge with another showoff somewhere else and this process never ends .
Where as most of the electrons people enjoy sitting in a room through out it's durability ,electronics brings out lot of creativity , saves lot of time ,helps to do things faster,brings comfort for life, etcetcetc everything is positive about electronics ..where is with gold everything is useless reason......
Imagine few years down the line if gold available like stones or iron what will happen all these people's investment :-)
Some of these silly reasons I tried to convince my wife for buying iPad , after all these illogical reasons she convinced a bit and accepted. simple solutions are always there for complex things ...just right logic....
iPad , it seems to be replacement for laptop,no start n stop process, very handy...worth investment ....
Wrote blog with iPad
should try my best to attend their marriage.
on this weekend bought an iPad for myself in perth after playing lot of dramas and pretensions to convince and to see smile on wife's face even after buying . Girls are ready to buy anything in the form of jewellery but not happy to spend on electronics.She was telling that gold at any point of time will give at least 90 percent of investment but not digital things . Then I argued that if u sell any of ur jewellery n bring back that 90% then I never buy anything... but no reply from wife.
Jewellery is the worst possible investment I have ever seen, the moment u start selling jewellery means bad phase of life has began , go to the same shop where u bought the jewellery u will see the difference in treatment, if ur circle knows this news then treatment differs , your consciousness treatment ......everything changes just with selling one jewellery . Also most of the times women buy jewellery to showoff in parties which obviously creates either jealousy or hatred feeling in many ways , will try for revenge with another showoff somewhere else and this process never ends .
Where as most of the electrons people enjoy sitting in a room through out it's durability ,electronics brings out lot of creativity , saves lot of time ,helps to do things faster,brings comfort for life, etcetcetc everything is positive about electronics ..where is with gold everything is useless reason......
Imagine few years down the line if gold available like stones or iron what will happen all these people's investment :-)
Some of these silly reasons I tried to convince my wife for buying iPad , after all these illogical reasons she convinced a bit and accepted. simple solutions are always there for complex things ...just right logic....
iPad , it seems to be replacement for laptop,no start n stop process, very handy...worth investment ....
Wrote blog with iPad
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Marriage day
One year in married life, revisiting past one year from wife's point of view, silently observing her feelings to correct myself to be better. We being a different individuals , despite of exciting moments , she had her complaints too, if everything is happy and smooth then life will be dull, its only complaints which bring value to happy moments provided complaints don’t dominate happiness. So I will correct these complaints but sincerely will give opportunity for her to complain some more, otherwise life will be boring :-).
From my point of view, this one year is beautiful. She scolds me when I am lazy, she beats me when I irritate her, she gives her opinion when I need one, she tolerates my mad philosophy, she feels proud of my character, more importantly she loves me almost equal to my mother, she is best friend too. She talks anything and everything with me, even her too personal as well,
I am leading the life exactly the way I want to be, without taking her life for my selfishness, setting right expectations will avoid most of the problems in life. Money, we never had fight for money, I give all my salary to her keeping very minimal for my expenses, I request from her if I need some, I never asked or bothered about what she is doing with money. At any point of time, my mind thinking so many things out of which money has no or least priority. When I am like that, she is even more responsible. Guys , one tip , if u want to save more money , give full rights on earnings to wife, u will see the difference. When you respect her parents then automatically she respects ur parents more than u do, so not even a single problem between families so far.
Someone said that if you want to know purpose of your life “ write down answer to ‘purpose of life’ again n again till you find an answer which makes you cry”, my purpose of life is “taking care of my wife as long as I am alive”, This feeling going to evolve with time. I learned this from illiterate and very matured human, my father.
From my point of view, this one year is beautiful. She scolds me when I am lazy, she beats me when I irritate her, she gives her opinion when I need one, she tolerates my mad philosophy, she feels proud of my character, more importantly she loves me almost equal to my mother, she is best friend too. She talks anything and everything with me, even her too personal as well,
I am leading the life exactly the way I want to be, without taking her life for my selfishness, setting right expectations will avoid most of the problems in life. Money, we never had fight for money, I give all my salary to her keeping very minimal for my expenses, I request from her if I need some, I never asked or bothered about what she is doing with money. At any point of time, my mind thinking so many things out of which money has no or least priority. When I am like that, she is even more responsible. Guys , one tip , if u want to save more money , give full rights on earnings to wife, u will see the difference. When you respect her parents then automatically she respects ur parents more than u do, so not even a single problem between families so far.
Someone said that if you want to know purpose of your life “ write down answer to ‘purpose of life’ again n again till you find an answer which makes you cry”, my purpose of life is “taking care of my wife as long as I am alive”, This feeling going to evolve with time. I learned this from illiterate and very matured human, my father.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Circle of life
Jackey, I met him around 5 years back in Japan. I vaguely remember how I met him. I was working in Japan , after lunch I went for a walk with my friend to nearby Hibiya park of Tokyo, Jackey was also there having lunch with his parents, I think he asked me to take his photo with his parents , he took a photo with us as well in his camera.I left Japan after that, now after 5 years I joined a company where they have branch in Japan. Present company published my photo in their intranet, he saw my photo , with his great memory he send an email to confirm my identity. After exchange of few emails , he searched his albums and send me the old photo which we had taken 5 years. It was quite a surprise for both us to meet at the same company. Its proving again and again that world is very small, present company is having an annual event in few months time at an island , will be meeting Jackey there soon.
It’s a good day today. Good news from friend and family members and surprise from Jackey
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