Expectation-the most dangerous word in my view. Most of the problems in any relation can be attributed to expectation. My first experience with expectation was when I am child. It was diwali time, my friend's parents gave money to their kids,I was expecting that my parents too will give me at least 10 rupees to buy crackers. Evening time reached, I was waiting, no one in the home turned up with money, totally disappointed, I went to my mother and asked to give me 10 rupees for buying crackers. My mother was helpless, I told that I won't eat food with out money. All the communication with my father has to go through my mother. My mother told the situation to my father, my father clearly said that "some how if I give money now, this will become your starting point for all your future demands, I won't give money, now its' your wish to eat food or not”. I was very angry, unable to understand my father situation and his vision. Didn’t eat food for two days, after so many requests from my grandfather and mother I started eating food. All that happened because of my expectation. I don't know it was a conscious decision or just happened, from that time onwards I stopped expecting. Used to ask only what ever was mandatory.
Above incident helped me to live happy life even in struggles. My expectation from anyone is almost nothing now. Expectations leads to disappointment, if you stop expecting anything from anyone then most of the problems in life are solved. Count all problems at anytime, remove expectation from those problems then see the difference. Be it from a friend, from a colleague ,from manager, from a company , from government etc....try not to expect anything. Most of the times if you deserve something you will get it, if you deserve but still you are not getting then problem is with you only, you have to find a way to get what you deserve. Rather than expecting its better to find a way to get what you want. From the same above diwali situation instead of expecting money, I would have impressed my dad to give me that money or I would have worked hard and earned that money or I would have taken loan from someone etc....Another example that I can imagine is if a friend is coming from foreign and if expectations are to bring something worth of 100 dollars, even if he brings 99.9 dollars worth then there is a disappointment, if there is no expectation even a single chocolate will do wonders. So many examples in daily life.....
But expectation is mandatory in few things, my family should expect from me to take care of them always, my friends can expect to help them in needs. These are order and course of life, being a human have to fulfill atleast these expectations .
Today its Australian day and Chinese new year ,celebrations are in full swing in the city. I am listening crackers sound while writing this blog :-).I met one Chinese person when I was jogging , discussed with him for some time about Chinese new year. Bought ray ban glasses with the money I won in the casino yesterday. If my glasses happen to break in one year time then I will get new one for half the price as part of gaurnatee,I can break intentionally :-).
Above incident helped me to live happy life even in struggles. My expectation from anyone is almost nothing now. Expectations leads to disappointment, if you stop expecting anything from anyone then most of the problems in life are solved. Count all problems at anytime, remove expectation from those problems then see the difference. Be it from a friend, from a colleague ,from manager, from a company , from government etc....try not to expect anything. Most of the times if you deserve something you will get it, if you deserve but still you are not getting then problem is with you only, you have to find a way to get what you deserve. Rather than expecting its better to find a way to get what you want. From the same above diwali situation instead of expecting money, I would have impressed my dad to give me that money or I would have worked hard and earned that money or I would have taken loan from someone etc....Another example that I can imagine is if a friend is coming from foreign and if expectations are to bring something worth of 100 dollars, even if he brings 99.9 dollars worth then there is a disappointment, if there is no expectation even a single chocolate will do wonders. So many examples in daily life.....
But expectation is mandatory in few things, my family should expect from me to take care of them always, my friends can expect to help them in needs. These are order and course of life, being a human have to fulfill atleast these expectations .
Today its Australian day and Chinese new year ,celebrations are in full swing in the city. I am listening crackers sound while writing this blog :-).I met one Chinese person when I was jogging , discussed with him for some time about Chinese new year. Bought ray ban glasses with the money I won in the casino yesterday. If my glasses happen to break in one year time then I will get new one for half the price as part of gaurnatee,I can break intentionally :-).
Arun Shenoy pinged me in gtalk.Arun lives in Singapore, he is a multi talented person, he maintain perfect balance between personal and professional life.When I traveled to Singapore first time, Arun taught me many things both at work and off the work.I was new to foreign country at that time,Arun told me that "Anil,first learn the project ,money will follow you later".Its true ,I am enjoying the fruits of Arun's words and those days hard work now. Few things I know about Arun are, he is very health concious,musician,muscle builder, do stunts on bike apart from great knowledge in Murex. Today he read my blog and appreciated my effort. I was happy for his gesture, though I am nothing before him he spend time to read my blog.Arun if you happen to read my blog again, I just wanted to say you that you are inspiration to me in striking balance between professional and personal life. Received few more appreciations for my blogging hobby.Another friend Srikanth from Singapore send his marriage photos. Happy to see friends getting married.
Going to have dinner with mango pickle... wav....
Good night.
Going to have dinner with mango pickle... wav....
Good night.
2 comments:
Interesting writing ...Though 'EXPECTATION' looks dangerous if crossed above limit, i do not completely agree with "try not to expect anything". To achieve anything or everything in life its highly madatory to set goal and EXPECT the desierd result out of it
For eg:You set a goal to earn 10$ today n try working towards that goal.You obviously EXPECT that your work/task should return something as a result. You can't accept whatever you get as a part of return.It should match with your expected results.
In my point of view, you cant achieve something without any EXPECTATION.A new born baby also expects the attention and care of everybody around.
Point is that EXPECTATION in healthy way with in a limit is mandatory rather than not having at all...We should be able to judge n decide that limit of EXPECTATION
Hi,
Very true,self expectation leads to achievement.My basic point is "try not to expect anything from the people".The only person from whom you can expect is yourself.New born baby care etc..etc... will happen automaticlly....these comes under order of life.
EXPECTATION from others is dangerous.By the way who are you?
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